Originally Posted by pitbulllady
Part of Wilt's reluctance to show emotions, and especially to cry, is also a cultural issue. Men from his particular cultural background are taught from early childhood that crying is a sissy, weak thing to do, moreso even that most other men. Being "hard"(tough, impervious to weak emotions) is seen as a good thing. You will hear the phrase "man-up" used around here when someone is telling a guy to be tough and not let his emotions show or let anyone know that he's hurt. Since Wilt apparently was more or less the man of the house when he still lived with Jordan, he especially would have been under pressure to be strong, and even when Larry's weight came crashing down on his arm, and that basketball struck his eye, and later, when taking so much more abuse from his opponent, he's silent, though his face registers agony. It's like Wilt takes that whole "don't show your feelings" thing to the extreme, sometimes.
If you listen to the lyrics of "Desperado", listen for the line, "Don't you draw the Queen of Diamonds, boy, she'll cheat you if she's able; you know the Queen of Hearts is always your best bet. Seems to me some fine things have been laid upon your table, but you always want the ones that you can't get". The "Queen of Diamonds" is a reference to money and material wealth, vs. the "Queen of Hearts", or love/secure relationships. THAT, and the following words, are one of the reasons this song reminds me so much of Randall, someone who naively picked what he thought would make him wealthy and famous over things like friendship, and even though he had a secure job and WAS successful, still wanted more, more than he was really able to get, and wound up over his head by basically being suckered in by a slick boss's promise of success, not realizing that he was only being used. While not really part of this forum, most of his many(yeah, he does have a LOT of fans)fans speculate that IF he ever had a surviving family, he's estranged from them, choosing a career over relationships, and that's the real gist of that song-a plea for just such a person, someone who's pursuing fame and fortune while shutting out anyone who might love him, and as a result, forgetting how to love others, to stop and re-think their priorities before it's too late. In a nutshell, the song is saying that showing love for others, and allowing yourself to BE loved, is more important in the long-run that financial and material success.
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